Is it okay for my husband to take solo ski trips by himself?
Mу husband οftеn takes trips up tο Blue Mountain οn hіѕ οwn, now аѕ a family wе аll ski аnd snowboard. Wе hаνе bееn happily married fοr 15 years, bυt іt bothers mе thаt hе takes іt upon himself tο gο up fοr thе day without giving much рlοttіng tο thе others. Iѕ thіѕ okay οr аm I life selfish. I know ѕοmе men golf аnd perhaps hе јυѕt want tο bе οn hіѕ οwn. Whаt dοеѕ everyone reflect. Iѕ thіѕ ok?
Hе lіkеѕ tο dο іt οn a weekly basis,
Hе lіkеѕ tο dο іt οn a weekly basis,
as long as you are granted the same privledge
of course it’s okay but if he was my husband, i’ll be concered about his safety in snowy mountain…not about cheating.
I reflect that you both should be doing your own activities. Just because you are married doesn’t mean that you delight in the same equipment and need to do absolutely everything together. You need to have time for yourselves, many people get lost in relationships or marriage because they forget this. He goes skiing, what are you going to do?
I am an avid golfer and like to get out once and a while and golf a round with friends. But I would question my significant other if she sought after to go once in a while too. I see his point and I see yours also. Talk to him about it. If you’ve been married for 15 years, he should be fine with talking to you about it.
Why not? Everyone needs alone time. Unless he is sneaking to get away for the day, I wouldn’t worry about it. My husband likes to do equipment by himself as I do. We’re best friends and impart a lot of activities; but wer’e not joined at the hip.
Do you experience the same for yourself? Go shopping, spa, antique shopping or no matter what by yourself. It’s very therapeutic and relaxing…and I’m always thrilled when I get home and see him since we’re so used to doing everything else together.
Of course it is okay, as long as you take family trips as well. Sometimes it is just nice to go off on your own. Do you ever just like to take a day of pampering for yourself, it is the same thing.
i agree with arylinn. as long as you can go on no matter what trip you want as well.
but you tell us. he’s YOUR husband, not ours.
Nearly everybody likes time alone .. but, since your whole family does this same endeavor – it seems that he should include the family in this endeavor, and get his alone-time, a further way.
I reflect it would be ok to check this out. Just to know – to be sure – and to ease your mind.
Does he insist that no one comes with him ?
Don’t accuse him of anything – or make him reflect that you reflect anything about it. Just check it out in some way.
You are not life selffish. It kinda sounds like he may be the one who is life somewhat selfish. It would be different if he was doing a sport which no one else liked – and didn’t want to go, too.
It would not be ok with me.
If it bothers you, then no, it’s not ok. Maybe if it was something he did once in a while it wouldn’t be a huge deal, but every week? Come on. That’s a bit much. I do believe people need some self-determining time, but I also reflect that married people should make it a habit to do equipment that are both enjoyable and beneficial to the relationship. husbands and wives should get away together, not get away from each other. More time apart is never a excellent thing. It’s not necessary, and it’s not healthy for the marriage. Of course, you can’t come off like a controlling b!&ch, but you have to find a way to timely yourself. I don’t reflect you are life selfish. I reflect this is a small bit weird, and I too would be worried if my husband sought after so much time alone, especially if your whole family likes to ski. You know your husband best… you know what shuts him down or makes him snap, and you need to avoid that… finding a way to approach him about this is vital…. you have to make the conversation non-threatening and non-accusing. maybe just question him what it is that he likes about the place so much. No matter what you do, the fact that you don’t like it means that you deserve him to hear you out on the issue.